5 Ways to Get in the Mood for Romance

The fact is that we are busy, busy people. And there are no “sex police” knocking on your door each week to see if you’ve made love or not so it is easy to let lovemaking slip off the priority list. At times, it barely makes it onto the to-do list! After about 2 years, the initial ‘love’ drugs wear off and we settle more into reality. While that can be an even more exciting time, in my book, it poses challenges for people whose regular lives get in the way of sexual desire. If you are having less desire than you once had, do not fret and assume (if you listen to the media lately) that you are a victim of Female Sexual Dysfunction. You likely do not suffer from HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder) though some people/companies would like you to think you do.

To counter-act the demands of regular, multi-tasking lives, there are ways to put your time and attention on your sex life that can reap huge benefits for you. Here are some to get you started:   

1. Have a hot, relaxing, ‘sense’ual bath. This means engaging all of your senses so you have aromatic oils or bubble bath, something bubbly or yummy to sip on, an erotic book to read (yes there are waterproof erotic books! I carry some on my website), some mood music or even peace and quiet and of course you have the hot water to caress your skin.

2. Ask for a foot rub! Studies have now shown that keeping a woman warm and rubbing her feet will shut down her amygdala (in her brain) which will allow her to become aroused. This slows or even stops the multi-tasking and the mental chatter that we ladies engage in when our partners are trying to arouse us.

3. Think of or write down an erotic fantasy and consider sharing it with your lover – enough said!

4. Make a date to be with your man and let the anticipation boost the passion for both of you. We often assume that planning a romantic encounter isn’t a turn on when in fact the opposite can be true if you adjust your mindset. When you first met and sex was always on your mind, you likely did plan it out with the right clothes, lingerie, make-up, perfume, way you walked and making sure your bedroom was prepared. This wasn’t really all that spontaneous – it was planned. Make sense? 

5. Take ten seconds or more to fully and completely kiss your partner with all the love that is in your heart for them. Be fully present in your body and use your hands, fingers and entire body to let them know how much you love, respect and admire them. You can end it with whispering 3 things that you adore about them and then walk away leaving them open mouthed. What happens from there is totally up to you!

A little variety and creativity goes a long way to stirring up sexy thoughts simmering just below the surface.

For 5 More Ways to Get in the Mood for Romance click here


Kim Switnicki, ACC
Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach for Women
Rediscover your passion for sex and have a juicy marriage that lasts!


Author of “Great Sex for Hard Times” and “G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven!

Free Report here on the Top 10 Ways to be a Sexier, more Confident Woman

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